The main reason for marital failure is focused narrowly on affective qualities of relationships which are infidelity
The main reason for marital failure is focused narrowly on affective qualities of relationships which are infidelity, followed by incompatibility, and communication problems. Infidelity is the most mentioned main contributing factor to divorce as it is been cited most of the articles that we have studied because this act is mostly considered unjustifiable in trust issues spouses cannot recuperate from. According to Shellie Warren (2018), infidelity always starts with emotional affair and it will be developed into physical affair. The explanation given by Paul R.Amato and Denise Previti (2013) on their article addresses that spouses will show poorer adjustment and estrangement between married couples will occur that leads to the dissolution of their marriage. Thus, infidelity is a perilous watershed in a deteriorating relationships. Besides, incompatibility is also one of the affective reasons that leads to spouses getting divorce. Incompatibility or drifting apart is a situation related to emotional attrition in the relationship-not being understood, not in love anymore, feeling lonely and unappreciated (Ilene Wolcott, 1999). This reason is expected to be the indicators of problems regarding deeper psychological or social roots (Jody Hughes, 1999). Anyhow, either spouses cannot be blamed for the failure of marriage based on incompatibility as couples are unable to cooperate with each other to stay married. Communication is the key of a marriage and inability to have an effective communication will lead to pique and depression for both spouses, causing marital problems. Some unhealthy routine of communication that leads to frustration are having too much argument and conflict, yelling at spouse and lack of communication throughout the day (Shelby B. , et al. , 2013). The study by Bindhu Vasudevan, et al. (2015) on divorce rate also to be stated due to lack of understanding and communication problem among the couples. The findings may be interesting, but this is not the first time we are hearing that communication could make or break ones marriage.
A range of personalities, characteristics and behaviours attributed to oneself or commonly one’s spouse, is the second major causes for marital failure. Frequently counted in in this category are alcohol and drug abuse, physical violence to spouse (wife) or child, and emotional or verbal abuse. In most of the articles, alcohol and drug addiction set a prominent strain on a marriage as an outcome in the exchange of behaviours. The number of wives nominating their husbands on negative behaviours are far way more than the husbands doing so (Ilene Wolcott ; Jody Hughes, 1999). These addiction and abuse can skyrocketed and can often kill the spouse who is involve in these habits and the spouse who is not will often suffers till the end of life. Thus, the spouse, mostly women or wives, are more willingly to file divorce than being ended up in a pathetic life. Physical danger to the wives and children was one of the many reasons for marriage breakdown. According to the research done by Shelby B. , et al. (2013) the wives voiced out how the violence or mistreatment in their relationship grow continuously with increased level of violence and remorseful till the seriousness extremity of the abuse worsen to unassailable levels. In spite of the fact that wives can still bear with the physical violence of their husbands, when their children themselves were to be the victims, that is where the women stand up with all the rights to apply divorce. Hence, the inability to overcome their challenges, the wives prefer to end up in courtrooms. Emotional and verbal abuse in a marriage is such a covert form of domestic violence and abuse that many people are unable to recognise that they are a victim. In this context, women are the main victim of these abuse that triggered them to get divorce although the abuser is not a “bad” person, as deep emotional issues are to be blamed (Shellie Warren, 2018).
Factors outside the interactive relationship such as financial problems and physical and mental health may affect the relationship causing stress leading to marital failure. Financial hassle plays an important part on how people interact with one another. Most divorce cases occur shortly after a major financial crisis in a family, such as a failed investment or bankruptcy and when one of the spouse losses the job or being fired. Financial hardship can increase the couples’ loneliness, misery, and they will be having low self-esteem which can worsen marital tensions (Ilene Wolcott & Jody Hughes, 1999). Thus, couples with low incomes are at a higher risk of divorce than couples with higher incomes. In addition, physical illness and mental health problems have often been incorporated within the external pressures’ category. Physical and mental illness can increase stress in a relationship and lower marriage satisfaction. Poor health can strain finances, affect sexual relations and create tensions that lead to decreased marriage satisfaction. Marital distress and psychological illnesses mutually influence each other. Marriage problems can create or intensify some psychological illness but individuals with psychiatric disorders are also less likely to develop satisfying marriages (Ilene Wolcott ; Jody Hughes, 1999).