obsession with our own thoughts and opinions and the desire to speak all the time especially if you are a role such as an advisor is very strong. As we have two ears and only one mouth we should speak proportionate to that ratio, it has been said. Perhaps as a couch the hardest thing is to learn to keep quiet. Wat is it we are listening to and for? The tone of voice of the coachee will show any emotion and this is what should be listened to. A monotone voice could indicate the coaches detachment emotionally from the story already and that this is an old line of thought, whereas a ore animated voice will indicate the awakening of new ideas.